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August 31, 2011

Still it can be a struggle

signing galley copies at the Book Expo of America signing galley copies at the Book Expo of America

I've been healing from the trauma of Child Sexual Abuse for years off and on. My work both personally and professionally has been to help others understand the impact of trauma and more recently to help people understand Dissociative Identity Disorder. My belief in my stregnth has been steadfast but recently I gave in to the pain of the past and took steps that could have killed me, but for the intervention of my partner. 

Its been an incredibly difficult experience and a very humbling one. With the work I have done around the country, in writing my book and now blogging for Psychology Today, I thought I was above the pain. I became complacent - thinking I'd never do anything to hurt myself. I didn't pay attention to the power of this pain and the memory of the past. So as my book comes out this fall. As happy a life as I have built for myself there are still painful memories that can take over - I am far from perfect, and will continue to struggle. 

4 comments for "Still it can be a struggle"

Holly Gray's Gravatar

I love your blog, Olga. Thank you for the work you do.

"I didn't pay attention to the power of this pain and the memory of the past."

I do the same. It is humbling, great word choice. Wishing you the strength you need as you continue to struggle.

Holly Gray wrote on September 22, 2011 at 09:41 PM
Lisa Schmude's Gravatar

Hello Olga. I discovered your book last weekend and read it cover to cover until I finished it. You're story touched and inspired me. Thank you for being brave enough to return to the dark places of your past in order to share this remarkable journey with all of us. This book will provide hope for so many and in turn will be another tool that will help you in your own process. I'm a marriage and family therapist intern doing a rotation at 1736 Family Crisis Center in Torrance, CA. I work with survivors of domestic violence. If you are ever in LA, I would love to take my group to hear you speak. Or perhaps - dare I be brave enough to ask - would you ever consider coming to us ? In that case, I'd be able to gather not only the clients in group, but the women in our three shelters and 2 other outpatient clinics. Thank you again and best regards to you. Lisa Schmude, MFT I

Lisa Schmude wrote on November 04, 2011 at 11:49 AM
Miriam Kalman Friedman's Gravatar

Olga, Mark Adams is a psychologist here in Houston, a brilliant man who works in the field of trauma and post-traumatic stress. He told me that for abuse victims and people who have suffered tragic loss, each small stressful incident in ordinary life resonates through those past traumatic experiences. So those who have suffered in this way can come to expect, and prepare, to react differently from people who have not suffered great traumas, especially in childhood.

Miriam Kalman Friedman wrote on February 06, 2012 at 07:01 PM
Y.Cynthia's Gravatar

You words resonate with my own journey. Memories or feelings related to the trauma resurface when less expected.

Y.Cynthia wrote on March 07, 2013 at 04:15 PM
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